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  1. Mico Shi says

    Relate

  2. Dennis Dandoy says

    Ganyan ang mga ugali sa matagal na nag abroad parang nagsawa na sola sa pinas na igali

  3. Dennis Dandoy says

    Medyo tama medyo alanganin hati

  4. Raul Wise says

    Search filial responsibility law.

  5. LB LB says

    Tama ka and this culture sucks.

  6. LB LB says

    Oo, walang retirement. Anak ang 401k. Parents pa galit pag kinewestyun mo ang pinadala. Kulang and matapang pa!

  7. Clarice Montinola says

    A friend of mine is an only child who works abroad & became financially independent when she just turned 25 years old. 25 years later she still continues to support her parents financially in the Philippines although her parents are college graduates & were mortgage free since she was born (grandparents gave a house as a wedding gift and farm lands). Her father never supported the family. She’s also helping some of her Filipino relatives who are financially misfortunate. My friend is worried that she might not not have enough savings to support her old age. She has never been married because she could not afford to raise two families. Once she said, β€œI am hoping not to live for a very long time or I’ll just close my eyes when I die so as not to be a burden to anybody.” That is so sad to hear from someone who actually works hard to make her life better so she could enjoy the fruits of her labor.

  8. caselyn P. T says

    Relate!

  9. Malcolm Earl Modequillo says

    Pinakamasakit yung kinumpara ka sa ibang anak samantala nag kamali ka lang naman
    "Buti pa si anak ni ganto"

  10. Ian Carlo Rillon says

    Problem with pinoy thinking is pag naka graduate si panganay, he/she is an instant saviour of the whole clan. The clan would rather receive "fish" than to "learn how to fish" themselves. Real talk.

  11. Rico C says

    Can we get a translation in English? Americans married to Filipinos can be falling victim to the manipulation and dependency from those parents. I feel this great material. Salamat!

  12. Miss Jean Rose Powers says

    Katotohanan ang mga sinabi mo tita. Mahirap man paniwalaan pero napaka-totoo nya.

  13. Englebert says

    magpasalamat na lang ang magulang kung maappreciate ng anak ang paghihirap nila…wag yung halos isumpa na ang anak kapag walang maibigay na tulong sa kanyang magulang.
    thumbs up sa video na ito mam😊

  14. jeovanni keith torred says

    Sana all katulad mo tita,dapat ganito mindset ng mga kabataan,thank you po tita

  15. elearningph says

    Thank you for this video. You are awesome. I shared it to my news feed.

  16. Hiszuka Haruu says

    Nako gurllll eto scenario ko ngayon. 😒

  17. iam_ eunique says

    U said it all!! Im with u… and yes its the reality nowadays.. and it sucks!!

  18. Trixie Ishiwata says

    Can totally relate to this πŸ˜”

  19. Raleine Ann Navarro says

    My mom hated me for days because i got 89 on my card, i got that grade because it's my first time entering a university and i have no tutor this time like I've done before. She always say that im lazy but she didn't know that im answering all my assignments and projects but she hates me because i can't do chores, eh how can i do chores if my grades are slowly falling down and pag naman nagbagsak magagalit sya. Hirap na hirap na akong unawain sya. Sa sobrang taas ng expectations nya sakin nakakasakal na. I have anemia too because hindi ako natutulog sa gabi kasi ginagawa ko lahat ng school requirements ko bago mag-umaga para hindi masumbatan na tamad πŸ˜€

  20. K-Ann Marpuri says

    I noticed dun sa mag old parents na may growing wealth, sila pa yung nagbibigay ng house and seed money to their grown up kids when they get married.

  21. K-Ann Marpuri says

    I think what makes the Filipinos poor is because of the mindset. Also parents should set their children to being financially savvy too until they become capable of earning.

  22. G-Ann Visitacion says

    I cried so hard 😭😭😭😭😭 this month lang talaga bumukas isipan ko about sa retireman plan na nangyayari saken na halos ako na ang pumapasan ng problema ng family ko. Never kong naramdaman ang suportang paaralin ako ng magulang ko dahil sa old tradisyon ng nanay ko about sa "lalake ang bumubuhay sa pamilya" since nakaabot na ko ng hs okay na daw, di man lang inisip ng nanay ko na sobrang nakakasakal na ang mga words na lumalabas sa bibig niya.

    Kapag gusto mong magresign sa trabaho na kahit alam mo sa sarili mo na toxic na din doon hindi mo magawa dahil iniisip mo yung mga salitang bumubuka sa bibig niya na halos ikaw na ang pumasan sa problema sa bahay at sa mga utang.

    But now, 23 years old na ko pero wala pa rin akong nararating sa buhay, halos ibreakdown ko na ang dreams ko.

    Ang sakit lang ding isipin na utang na loob ko na din pala sa kanila ang buhay ko.

    PS. Sorry halos dito ko na nailalabas ang sama ng loob ko 😒😞

  23. Croix Bartel says

    Yung mga PUTANG INANG magulang na nanunumbat sa mga anak, kasi mga utak talangka kayong magulang. Di nag ipon para sa retirement fund sabay gatas sa anak at may pamilya nang iba. PUTANG INANG utang na loob yan pero OBLIGATION niyo yan magulang na pag-aralin mga anak niyo dahil KANTOT KAYO NG KANTOT, mag introduce ng tao sa mundo, sabay hindi kayo handa? Sabay sumbat pagka graduate ng anak? OBLIGATION NIYO YAN PUTANG INA NIYO. HINDI NIYO KASI ALAM YUNG MEANING NG "LEGACY".

  24. ZNcarcass says

    Parang Yaya ako dito sa pamilya ko dami dami na nga sisabi ginagawa ko tas wala akong makuha. Its like im wasting my time for them

  25. ZNcarcass says

    Sometimes I just want leave them forever

  26. ChuniArts says

    Nako Tita. May mga magulang na pa victim, magaling mang mainipula ng tao. Pag nag open po kaming mga kabataan sa iba, sisingit at babaliktarin kami, sila daw yung "binabastos" wala daw kaming modo, samatalang "pinalaki daw kami ng maayos". Behind closed doors sila tong mga namamalo ng walis tambo sa ulo, mga nag bibitaw ng masasakit na salita.. Etc.

  27. Karla Uminga says

    Another Toxic Filipino Trait: Whenever I bought food outside which is my lunch or meal during work and my mom said I should share my food with with my siblings plus her (pati yun fiancΓ© ng ate ko na Dutch) which masisira talaga yun budget ko (nakikialam sa baon ko). This also applies to my relatives as well.

  28. Ritchell Badiola says

    This is super real talk. I hope everyone who views this video will open up their eyes πŸ‘€ be responsible and please… Please do not pass this toxic Filipino culture on to the next generation.

  29. Jude says

    Such a great message. At dahil dyan I will one of your subscriber and would be the destroyer on your like button. β˜ΊοΈπŸ˜…

  30. Jude says

    Tompak na tompak ka dito. By far in my own opinion This is one of the most toxic filipino culture we have.

  31. Don Quixote Doflamingo says

    Lol mas malupit parents ko .. Lolo and lola ko hindi sila inobliga na magbigay ng pera sakanila ..lumaki ako sa lolo and lola till tumanda at mamatay sila never nag bgay magulang ko sa kanila ..pag may nakukuhang pention lola ko ipag ddrive pa sila ng parents ko tapos saknila pa mappnta ung pera.. Till nag ka work na ko obligado ka pa sila sustentuhan …tsk tsk..i think its not the culture .its the person itslef…lalo na tatay ko… Puro porma ndi naman nkapagtrabaho..asa sa nanay ko tapos ngaun matanda asa pa sakin…

  32. Cecile Panizales says

    Same po ang situation ko, πŸ₯ΊπŸ˜žπŸ˜ž ang blog ninyo

  33. Orang3 Monkey says

    Filipinos think just because they're older they deserve respect. Respect is earned not given. My GF's tita acts like she's queen bee all the time even though she's the deadbeat of the family. I'm from the US so she didn't get her way when she tried to pull that shit on me. I put the bitch in her place.

  34. Agent cocoa says

    Ganyan tatay ko si "Edwin" Dream killer at Utang na loob mentality, bwisit yung tao na yun

  35. Asha Igarta says

    Tita Wi got me like: Sana ikaw na lang naging nanay ko. 😭

  36. Kclyn Cabelin says

    ako noon sinabihan nang tyahin ko na sa unang sahod ibigay lahat sa magulang haha yon nung natapos yung contract ko sa trabaho and look for another job ayun puro negative na sinasabe sa akin kesyo bobo daw ako, di daw ako marunong mag english infact tapos naman na ako ngayon ng studies, kaya nung nakahanap ako new work di na ako nag abot then nag iipon na lang ako for Masters program and Emergency if ever πŸ˜‰

  37. Jesse David says

    Very well said! Diyos ko sa lahat ng tama sa mundo,ito ang pinakang tama! Sobrang nakaka relate ako sa topic na ito,nangyayari ito sa akin ngayon bilang anak na panganay.Yan ang realidad ng buhay,mag impok para sa sarili para sa pagtanda especially kung magkasakit,wag iasa sa iba.

  38. Aleexx Garunay says

    Buti pa dito nakaka relate ako kahit papaano medyo naging maayos pakiramdam koπŸ™‚

  39. LAURA KINNEY says

    Minsan sa sobrang toxic ng parents ko pati happiness at choice ko naSet aside ko para sumaya sila dahil sa utang na loob (- _ -) d nman ako ngsabe na iluwal ako sa mundo

  40. Maria Zamora says

    Hello po Tita Wi! Last year pa pala po itong video na ito, pero ngayon araw kolang din napanood. Ganto din po kasi ang nangyayari sakin ngayon. Not on my dad, but on my mom. Message kolang po sa mga makakabasa nito.. Alam kopo na lahat tayo ay pinalaki ng ating parents, not all siguro pero most of us na maging mapagmahal, mabait, may kusa and etc. It means kung talagang pinalaki mo ng maayos anak mo, magkukusa at magkukusa yan na tulungan ka even though na hindi ka humngi ng tulong sa kanya.. ganun naman tlga e diba. Same as parents, kung mahal mo anak mo, at iniisip mo magiging future nya.. hindi mo dapat iobliga ang responsibilidad mo as parents sa kanya. Anak mo mismo ang tutulong sayo dahil mahal kanya walang halong obliga or what, kusa yan tutulong.

    Sa nangyayari naman sakin ngayon, sinisigurado ko parin na hindi ko naiispoil ang parents ko. Pag nagbibigay ako sa kanila, ayaw ko na sobrahan dahil baka masanay at hindi naman din kulang, kumbaga kung ano pwede ko maishare e shinashare ko. May time na nanumbat din sila pero bilang isang anak ako na mismo ang nagsalita about sa mindset nila na pagiging toxic..oo parents ko sila pero minsan kelangan din natin ipaalam sa kanila na nahihirapan tayo na sumalo sa lahat ng bayarin. Ang iniisip ko nlng ngayon is maging positive sa lahat ng bagay, lagi ako nagdadasal na sana ibless ni Lord ang trabaho ko so I can bless others too.

    Anyways, thank you Tita Wi for this vlog. This is an eye opener for all Filipinos. Hopefully maalis na ang ganitong klasing mindset among filipinos kasi nakakatoxic talaga. God bless po & More vlogs to come po! <3

  41. Mei chan says

    i guess i'm one of those lucky children na hindi ganito ang parents. i appreciate my parents na sinasabi nila ''anak, maging maganda lang buhay niyo magkakapatid masaya na kami" tapos ineencourage kami na magtapos ng pag-aaral at wag mag aasawa kaagad para gumanda ang buhay namin, i really appreciate them ❀️ my heart goes to those children na ganyan ang magulang though. this video is really important

  42. Margarette Charles says

    I love you tita wi!!!

  43. Jinco Cypher says

    How I wish I can send this to my mom and not be disowned hahhaha

  44. Phythona Malice says

    Marami talagang toxic na ugali ang mga Filipino, hindi ako sure kung bakit walang punapansin.
    Example from my experience to ah, yung pagnormalize na okay lang na sabihan mo ang anak/apo/pinsan o kung sinoman na kaclose mo na 'Ang taba mo na, mag exercise ka nga' like bitch, yes I know I'm not thin but do you really need to point that out? Hindi porket na kamaganak mo sya okay na laitin mo sya, nakakasakit ka no.
    Isa pa yang utang na luob, yan kahit saan mo yan mariririg sa mga drama always present yan, hindi pa ako nakakagraduate pero alam ko na masusumbat yan sakin sa future.

    Etong ELDERS na to, WALA ako issue sa kanila ang sakin lang, KAPAG IKAW ANG NAGKAMALI IKAW ANG MAGSORRY, hindi porket ikaw ang makakatanda ikaw na palagi ang tama. Please naman, please, grabe kasi eh dito kasi samin SIYA na nga ang nagkamali ako ang dapat magsorry, sa lahat to ah.
    Etong sasagot ka pa ah, nag eexplain lang ako, bastos na kaagad, wow naman…

    Sorry kung medyo rantish to pero at alam ko sa ibang tao parang bastos to, parang walang modo pero ito ang experience ko, gets ko na HINDI LAHAT ganito pero MARAMI lang talagang ganito.

  45. BANGTANED TV says

    Exactly what I have been experiencing. Being the breadwinner is fulfilling but sometimes it will consume you especially when you don’t have someone to lean on but yourself

  46. MINDSET is EVERYTHING says

    I don't hate being a Filipino, but what I don't like those wrong beliefs of Filipino. Especially old family tradition or beliefs coz its start the good moral character of a person at home and parents are the one who raise their children, and there's also good Filipino tradition and beliefs that we can still apply. Those good teachings like using respectful words saying.. (PO , OPO and MANO PO). You are right ate, I hope youngest generation will wake up and change the wrong way to right way. Not always focusing on social media and be toxic like their parents and be insecure all the time lol. We really need to speak up for this kind of stuff coz its stressful and depressing. Of course we need to help our self too not relying so much in the wrong system or wrong beliefs. We need to be open minded and be independent thinker in good way. I know for a fact that most filipino are so talented people and thats one of the good thing we have. Thank you so much ate. I like your blogs, I like your way of being direct. We need a person like you who speak up about truth. Thank you so much. πŸ˜‡

  47. Toxic Family really likes comparing game

  48. Timo Arnaldo says

    Toxic culture for sure! I'm filipino although I was born and raised in America.

    Here's an example: my dad tells everyone (mostly family) that he quit drinking. The problem is I still find his whiskey, scotch, wine and vodka hidden throughout the house. He does a poor job of hiding it though because I always find new bottles around the house. Outside the house, he's friendly but behind closed doors-he treats the family like sh*t. But yet he's always scared of what other people think of him

  49. Migz Andrada says

    Haaaays hanggang ngayon di pa tayo nagbabago.

  50. Honami Aoki says

    This video deserves a million views! Thank you for being the voice of those people who were stuck in these situations but didn’t have the courage to voice out how they feel. ❀️

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