Trigger warning: Mentions of Psychological and physical abuse
MANILA, Philippines — Filipino-American actress Liza Soberano opened up about the abusive relationships she had during her childhood growing up in the United States.
Liza appeared on the “Can I Come In?” video series, hosted by Sarah Bahbah, which began with the former being asked her “origin story.”
The actress shared that she had a Filipino father named John and an American mother named Jacqueline. Both her parents were still young and took on multiple jobs, and Jacqueline was also addicted to crystal meth, which Liza’s younger brother Justin inherited.
John was arrested for breaking a restraining order filed by his ex-girlfriend on top of several other crimes, like making drugs and illegal carrying of firearms, leading to his deportation back to the Philippines.
Liza’s earliest childhood memories involve Jacqueline’s next boyfriend Michael, whom she described as “really bad news,” and such memories were validated by other family members.
Michael stole a minivan and took Jacqueline, Liza, and Justin (the two were only toddlers) with him, and it was only later in life did Liza realized they were being kidnapped.
Her earliest memory specifically was trying to get out of the van, attempting to run away, only to be caught by Michael, and a fight between him and Jacqueline.
While Jacqueline pretended to buy items but was calling the police, Michael continued his anger at Liza and forced her to hit one-year-old Justin in the head.
When Liza refused, Michael hit her with the base of his gun, and soon after, the cops arrived to arrest both Michael and Jacqueline.
Sarah asked Liza if her body still remembers any of the pain, to which Liza said, “I feel like immense fair. I don’t feel pain for some reason, I just feel fear of bringing shame to my mom… even though I know she was the one that did me wrong.”
After briefly staying with their grandmother’s, Liza and Justin were placed in the foster care system, bouncing around houses until they ended up with a woman named Melissa, who was supposedly a high school friend of Jacqueline’s.
The Soberanos stayed with Melissa for around eight months; however, toward the end, Liza began feeling a difference in how she was being treated.
Liza shared being thrown cupcakes at during a foster-brother’s birthday, not being included in movie nights because she was called “the family dog,” and being made to sit in a cardboard box behind the sofa.
The actress also revealed that she developed a fear of meatballs after Melissa force-fed her until she choked, made her wipe dog poop off the carpet with her tongue, and threatened to leave her in the garage overnight, or stuff Justin in the freezer.
“When you’re a kid, you believe anything that an adult says because you think that they have their best interest for you,” Liza tearfully said.
Things came to light when a social worker made a surprise visit and noticed bruises, scratches on Liza’s face, and a bloated belly from irregular meals.
At that moment, Sarah sat beside Liza, who was in a bathtub, to offer comfort and check on her well-being.
“You don’t have to be strong, your feelings are valid,” Sarah told Liza. “You didn’t deserve any of that, you didn’t deserve a single part of that. That is the cruelest s**t I’ve ever heard.”
While John was still in prison, he learned about Liza and Justin’s foster care situation and asked his parents to adopt them.
Liza’s life improved as her grandparents treated her well and had stable jobs, but she admitted she still felt an obsession with Jacqueline, who often visited to introduce Liza to a new half-sibling.
“I think from a very early age, I really took on the responsibility and role of being the older sister, and I loved it so much,” Liza said.
Unfortunately, Liza’s diabetic grandfather suffered a heart attack and needed open-heart surgery. The family faced financial setbacks, prompting them to move to a new home, and her grandmother had to quit her job to care for her husband.
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Because of that, Liza’s grandparents decided to send her and Justin to the Philippines to live with John, who was now based in Pangasinan, which Liza strongly opposed.
“I didn’t like my dad at all. I didn’t grow up with him,” Liza continued. “I knew him, I would talk to him on the phone from time to time, but I could never imagine myself going to the Philippines and living with him full time but that’s what needed to happen.”
Liza said meeting her estranged father was uncomfortable because John “demanded so much from her as a daughter” that Liza felt was unmerited as he wasn’t around the first decade of her life.
She even admitted being disgusted at her father kissing her on the cheek at the airport, even calling him John instead of dad.
Sarah asked Liza what message she had for her younger self, to which the actress answered that the young Liza was never at fault.
“One thing that I realize is I developed this habit of making myself so small out of fear of being a burden to people,” Liza continued. “I was afraid that if I did something that they didn’t like or something that upset people, that they wouldn’t want me anymore, or that I’d become unworthy of their love.”
Because of that, Liza tolerated much abuse and disrespect because she didn’t want to lose people in her life despite them feeling the opposite.
Liza added that her younger self needed people that kept their word, that actions spoke louder than the abundance of words of affirmation.
The actress ended by saying she started feeling truly worthy of love was when she gained fans in the Philippines and being in a relationship with her loveteam partner Enrique Gil.
In the latter part of the video, Liza discussed her experience being in a loveteam where she confirmed she and Enrique had broken up nearly three years ago.
At the end of video, Liza cut cake slices for Michael, Melissa, a person named J.R. who was her first kiss, someone whose name was redacted, and her toxic past self to symbolize her cutting them out of her life. — Video from “Can I Come In?” on YouTube
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